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Our lifestyle is pretty and it’s bold; it is gentleness and strength. Branded with self-awareness, we are, and we live.

Generation +

I am proud to wear the badge of lifestyle longevity, having started my journey over 2 decades ago.

This thing we call "the Lifestyle"

I am Leather, BDSM, Kink & Fetish. I live it fully as an integral part of my life. Of this often misunderstood and misstated practice, I am an unapologetic enthusiast. Like music to Marvin Gaye, this lifestyle is my heart and soul, more precious than gold.

WIITWD

Under the umbrella of , we are practitioners of a living style, a loving style and a lifestyle. The lifestyle is an art form, and we are artisans perfecting our craft.

My {lifestyle} Motto

For many years, my firmly-held lifestyle motto has been, “I am becoming what I am to be.” It was a declaration of preparedness for growth and an optimistic future outlook.

But at some point, one has to …arrive. There is a moment when you recognize and acknowledge your advancements. While my life is one of constant evolution, I am happily content having reached much of “what I am to be.“

Simply, I am.

S Y M B O L I S M

These are a few of my favorite things...

the butterfly

We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.

MAYA ANGELOU

my collar

The formal collar, the casual/day collar, and the play collar — they all have significant meaning in the life of a devoted s-type. I wear my collar proudly and with honor.

the BDSMblem

The BDSM emblem, or BDSMblem, is a highly symbolic design based on a Triskele and used commonly by practitioners of the BDSM lifestyle. Since its conception, elements of the lifestyle have changed (progressed), but the BDSMblem remains the de facto symbol.

Nkyinkyim

An Adinkra symbol (pronounced nnn cheen cheem) “depicting the twists and turns in the journey of life. The design of Nkyinkyim depicts the tortuous nature of life’s journey. These twists and turns require one to be versatile and resilient to survive.”

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You Are Worthy

A special note for femsubs

As a fem s-type, I have a special affinity for novice femsubs. Along your lifestyle travels, if ever your value is called into question — and just as a matter of positivity & well-being — I urge you to make the following affirmation a part of your regular and frequent self-care routine:

I AM WORTHY

And if you’re trying to find your footing in the lifestyle, or if ever you’re at a crossroads, in a turbulent phase of your journey, or just need some inspiration to make that move, give yourself permission to let go and to just…. Breathe: